Grudges rot the soul
I also grew up during that time, and I refuse to apologize for the way we were. It was a time when people knew how to take things, and just let them slide off. When we said "That's gay", never once did we mean that you were homosexual. The first band I was in, had a guitar player, who was gay, and nobody cared, nor did we treat him any differently from anyone else. He would use the term "that's gay" all the time. He knew it never meant anything bad about the gay community, it was just slang for "it sucks."